MODULE 2. UNFOLDING THE BIOLOGICAL SELF
            “Don’t judge the book by its cover”. It’s easy for other people to judge or define us by looking at our physical appearance. We can’t avoid that nowadays. We are defined based on the outside but not deep within. People can easily remember us by recalling of some of our features but not because of what we have inside or where we came from. For now, physical attributes are more considered by others on how they define us. As we talk about the BIOLOGICAL SELF, we realize that what we see outside doesn’t define what really in the inside or our PHYSICAL SELF.Our height, weight, skin color, and other physical characteristics did not show up in our lives randomly. Instead, it is done genetic transformation and biological development through heredity.

            Heredity. If you have a brown skin color then maybe it’s your mother’s skin color. You have a curly hair, seems like you got it from your dad. That’s how heredity is done. One trait of a parent can be transmitted to its offspring and when these traits are formed into specific information, these are called gene, or heredity’s basic unit. The 23rd chromosome in our body is what we called sex chromosome or the one that identify us from being a female or male. As years go by, we develop in ourselves maturation or the phase wherein completion of growth of genetic characteristics occur. This is also the stage that we unfold or discover the traits we get from our parents. It may lead into physical changes as we enter adolescence.

            **so thank your parents if you really have those good and amazing genes**
            Our physical self is not only affected by our physical features but also the effect of our environment. In one’s life development, he/she is exposed in an environment that may influence him/her in shaping her physical self. Those kinds of influences may come from our social network, societal expectations, and cultural practices. Family is our first social group. We are molded inside our home. We are taught how to act based on our age and we are taught to be responsible in taking care of our own body. As we stay inside our houses, practices our passed unto us like hygiene or what food we usually eat. As we enter adolescence, we became more conscious on our weight, facial features and other physical features. In order to break our consciousness, we engage ourselves to those activities that make us more attractive and acceptable due to peer pressure. One more thing that affects one’s physical beauty is how contemporary media portray ideal body goals for men and women. They portray more slim and muscular bodies to convince audience to involve their selves in a healthy lifestyle.

            In achieving physical well-being, there are circumstances that we focus on our physical beauty and forget other things that may help us in having a better physical self. We should take note that in order for us to achieve a deserving physical self, we should remember; first, healthy eating. We should eat right amount of foods and good combinations of food to sustain our healthy diet. Embracing a healthy lifestyle, as we target a healthy lifestyle we should forget vices such drinking, smoking and other unhealthy habits. We should discipline ourselves if we really want that healthy lifestyle. We should engage our bodies in physical activities such as running, going to the gym or doing sports. These activities help us to gain a stronger immune system. We should maintain proper hygiene. Our hygiene reflects our personality and it helps us to feel good about ourselves. Lastly, be confident; we can go out without our make up on or nice outfits because our best get up is by having that confident that no one can take away from you. Our confidence is our main weapon to others that who doesn’t accept for who we are.
            **start being healthy now ;)**

            Second part of this module talks about one’s SEXUAL SELF. This one distinguish the physical attributes such us our sex organs. Also, in this part talks about the development of secondary sexual characteristics wherein the physiological responses and, beliefs and behavior associated with sex are triggered. This happen commonly during the adolescence stage of a person. In this stage, one’s sex curiosity is highly exposed due to the influence of biological and socio-cultural factors that is why most confusion about their gender orientation happens during this stage.

            Our sex is given during birth. It is the viral part of our identity. We defined as men and women with our respective sexual genitals (penis for males and vagina for females). At some point in puberty, we observe changes in our human body as well as actions or feelings. This is where secondary sexual characteristics enter. Common changes for men are: growth of facial and bodily hair, appearance of Adam’s apple, and deepening of voice. Here in our country, we practice circumcision four young men as they enter puberty stage. On the other hand, menstruation for women occurs. Alongside with these happenings are physical developments in their body. Also, discharge of hormones for young men (testosterone) and women (estrogen) occur and it triggers changes in their respective reproductive system. In this stage also, male are starting to produce sperm while female are to produce eggs. This is the stage where young men and women are triggered to do things that satisfy their sexual needs. In connection with this, humans should be responsible enough with this action because it may result in various life responsibilities such as teenage pregnancy or worse, sexually transmitted disease.

            As years go by, one’s gender orientation may change. It can be due to the environment where he/she moves. As said, “gender is an identity that is learned and embraced by an individual.” Gender is affixed on societal beliefs and norms. Gender of a person can be personal or due to social construct. Sometimes, gender is affixed by societal beliefs and norms, that’s how social construct does. With social construct, gender includes the produced personality traits, attitudes, behaviors and values of a person. The mentioned roles are said to be social expectations from men and women individually. Men are expected to be strong and be the dominant while women are usually seen to be submissive and demure.
            Let’s admit the fact that nowadays, teenagers do sex with their respective partners by claiming the usual reason or lines such as “they love each other”, “they are ready to be committed to each other” or even “they trust each other and you know what they’re doing”. But in my perspective, that’s not enough. You don’t do sex because you trust your partner and you know what you are doing. Doing sex should undergo a deep and serious thinking because the result after can either be a nice one or not most especially if the young couple will not really take it carefully or simple to say, didn’t use protection at all. If the latter happen, one thing is for sure can happen, pregnancy. Pregnancy is not a joke; young women carrying and responsible for a life of little one. Having a kid is equal to a big responsibility by the parents because they are expected to cover all the expenses need for the baby.
**So just one piece of advice to those couple, especially those who are in college. Don’t do it. Not now. There’s a right time for that you know ;) That’s not even the foundation of a one serious and committed relationship**

            Other than pregnancy, there’s another consequence that a person may suffer if he/she carelessly or impulsively do sexual intercourse and that’s the risk of acquiring sexually-transmitted diseases (STDs). Since it is transmitted, it is a long term suffering in one’s body because disease like this is passed through exchange of body fluids or genital fluids. The most talked-about transmitted disease is the acquired immune deficiency syndrome (AIDS). This disease is caused by human immunodeficiency virus (HIV). AIDS can be transmitted mostly between broken skin, wounds and HIV-infected blood or blood contaminated body fluids. These diseases are treatable and can be cure but if they are not untreated it can affect the body’s immune system. It will make the body system weaker and weaker every day, worst, it can lead to death. So to tell you in a simple way how does a person acquire STDs, it can be done if a person is engage in several sex with multiple partners. As I said earlier, irresponsible sexual behavior may lead to unexpected consequences and may bring a big impact in one person’s life.


            There’s a way on preventing such problems, how? By making responsible decisions. First, one should respect one’s body because this shows how you value and determine one’s worth. One should not let his/her body control him/her over. We should not be carried away by our emotions especially when involving sexuality. That’s what we call maturity in thoughts and deeds. We should know our self-value and self-worth in doing such things like this. We should hold to our personal beliefs and principles. We should be guided by one’s personal beliefs and core values. Sexual pleasure can be give a so-damn-nice-feeling during the moment but we should look at what could it bring us in the future. Be future-oriented

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